Living life to the fullest

LiveMy father in law was simple straight forward honest man, full of life, happy and content.  Always enthusiastic and he was the one who knew how to live life to the fullest.  For him living life to the fullest was not about partying or drinking all night rather it meant enjoying doing things what he loved and finding little things that gave him joy. Even if it was just watching television with the family or taking a walk in a park with his friends for two hours every day.  Unfortunately, due to sudden heart attack he left for his heavenly abode earlier this month, leaving all of us in a state of shock and grief.

Since the time I attended his funeral, I have been thinking about his life, and how he lived     a life of significance. I learned how by doing random acts of kindness every single day he  made big impact into lives of others. He was a forward looking person with very strong values. His positive outlook, simplicity and no whining nature taught me invaluable life lessons and challenged me to think, how to live a life of significance, helping others and what is that I must do to attain contentment and happiness.  I recall him saying that you cannot be happy if you do not appreciate the things the way they are. He was always grateful and content with what he had. No regrets whatsoever. However, that does not mean that he was not ambitious, he had a fulfilling career at Nestle in India. He took good care of his family, provided rock solid foundation, values and best possible education to his children, made sure that his own parents were well attended to in their old age.

So the question is what is it like to be someone who lives life to the fullest? Here are the five lessons that I learned from his life:-

Money can’t buy you happiness

You need to live a life with meaning, and you do not need money in order to bring that meaning. Life is truly beautiful, if you just keep money aside for one moment and focus on giving more that acquiring in your life.

Find joy in everything you do

When you are able to appreciate minor things, you can achieve greater levels of happiness and satisfaction. It is never too difficult to be thankful for a little smile, small gift, or minor compliment. Being grateful instills positive thoughts and you can have an entirely different perspective of your life only if you learn to count your blessings, notice minute joys, and acknowledge everything that you have.   

Find Good in All Circumstances:

Circumstances are neither bad nor good, it is your response to those circumstances. If you have a positive approach, you can manage to obtain some benefit even from the most terrible situations.

Train your mind that all is well

Learn to develop the right mindset, you can be happy now, without changing anything else. You don’t need to wait until you’ve changed everything and made your life perfect before you’re happy. Do not waste your time and energy complaining or criticizing other. It will lead to unwanted stress that affects your health, allow others to live their life, leave them alone. Don’t try to please everyone. Instead of criticizing person, ask yourself, what is good about this person?

Empathy is good, action is better 

Having an empathic nature, and to act upon, allows you to cultivate better relationships around us, and in the process enjoy life a bit more. Since it is a selfless act, it also has the power to transform your life as well as the life of other people around you. This simple act can change the way you think and behave, and will encourage you to step outside of your own thoughts and feelings to be able to have a larger perspective on life.

Contributed by Rakesh Malhotra, Founder of Five Global Values (www.fiveglobalvalues.com)

Leadership Lessons That I Learned From My Mother

We make many transitions in life, from home to school and relationships and then into the business world.  Each layer brings concentric challenges and the choices that we make ultimately define who we are. When we are young we may not see the role that our mothers play, but in the test of time, in those moments of doubt, we hear her voice sing with reason.

What I am, you helped me to be

What I am, you helped me to be

My mother, as many, was one that both nurtured and taught; allowing life’s existence to be portrayed beyond words but in the actions of her very being. The skills that she gave us were validated in her life and we learned some were a momentous legacy, while others filed away for future use. As I have grown and moved through a career of success, the folders that are her lessons have been opened and shared and it is then that I realize the depth of her gifts and the truth of her life.

When we enter into a company, we are expected to adopt their values and behaviors. Success appears in many flavors and each one is a temptation to step beyond what we know is right. When faced with a questionable decision, I dig deep into my heart, to listen and remember and acknowledge all that I learned; allowing the leadership that was her life to be maintained in mine.

Resilience is to bend with the winds of life. My mother taught us that change is inevitable and will always bring a renewal of purpose. In business this allows progress and as a leader it keeps the doors open for new ideas and concepts.

An ultimate level of humanity must include compassion. My mother impressed that human existence is not ‘checked’ at the door of a business, but instead is an integral part of it. Compassion for and with co-workers, clients and situations brings a level of understanding that offers resolutions.

Being accountable and living with the responsibility of choice and actions is a lesson of being an adult.  This is not always the easy path in leadership, but it does set the precedence to keep from repeating mistakes and allows needed progress to move past on onward. Once exemplified, responsibility does not allow blaming, but instead allows change.

No matter how difficult her road, my mother always expressed an attitude of gratitude. Gratefulness is a gift you give yourself and those around you, to acknowledge the benefits and keep in the positive. Following this guidance in a company creates an environment that releases anxieties to allow efficient focus on the daily functions and encourages thoughtfulness.

Dignity and respect of others and of self is a mainstay in all areas of life. My mother taught me that these alone can carry us through the storms of indecision and doubt, and elevate to a realm of distinction that complements all other lessons. A leader must include these two factors to bring humanity and clarity as part of the direction.

One of my mother’s mantras was ‘honor is a lifestyle’, and I have carried this in my heart wherever I have gone. Its meaning may be personal to each of us, but it is also a feeling, an innate vision, and a knowing.  Honor is the bowing of my head to thank my mother for the incredible lessons and the ability to allow me to carry them on and see the fruit of her teachings in my success of life.

Contributed by Rakesh Malhotra, Founder of Five Global Values (www.fiveglobalvalues.com) and Author of “Adventures of Tornado Kid, Whirling Back Home Towards Timeless Values”.  Passionately determined to uncover the mystery of human behavior. His fascination with the influence of core values on human behavior stems from a career which has seen rise from an entry-level sales job to that of a seasoned CEO. Having worked, lived, or traveled to more than 40 countries, he has been able to study performance and human behavior across all cultures. Follow me @FiveValues

 

 

Formula for Success: Keep an Attitude of Gratitude

Staying Positive

Keep an attitude of gratitude; picture courtesy Joseph Clough website.

An attitude of gratitude is one of the most influential contributors to staying positive in life. It is the most powerful way to enhance success and happiness. Appreciating someone or something for positive qualities can have a tremendous impact on your daily life. By showing gratitude, you embrace positive elements of determination, enthusiasm, energy, and attentiveness.

Gratitude can help in developing your sense of self-respect and self-esteem. It motivates you to appreciate all the amazing facets of life and create a steady balance of peace, harmony, and happiness. Difficulties present opportunities to grow and develop as a person. You have potential to convert adversities to blessings by adopting a thankful behavior. Gratitude maintains and strengthens your relationship with God and other fellow beings.

Express your Gratitude

Some people are inherently more positive, hopeful, and optimistic than others. Even the most cynical and pessimistic people can develop a positive and satisfied attitude with constant practice. If you feel that someone has done something nice for you, you should never hesitate to instantly thank him/her. When you show the attitude of gratitude, you actually share your joy with people around you. It does not only make you feel good, but also gives a certain level of confidence to others.

Do not Take Things for Granted: You easily ignore a majority of positive things in your life only because you are used to them. You are able to realize their significance only when you lose them. Do not falter to appreciate something before it is too late.

Small Things Matter: Developing the attitude of gratitude requires you to observe little things. When you are able to appreciate minor blessings, you can achieve great levels of happiness and satisfaction. It is never too difficult to be thankful for a little smile, small gift, or minor compliment.

Find Good in All Circumstances: Circumstances are neither bad nor good. It is your response to those circumstances that determine their good or bad nature. If you have a positive approach, you can manage to obtain some benefit even from the most terrible situations.

Make Careful Comparisons: It is quite natural to compare yourself with others. While you compare yourself with those who are more affluent, you should also remember the people who are not as fortunate as you. You should make appropriate and encouraging comparisons as sentiments of jealousy can affect your contentment and self-esteem.

Life is already full of anxieties, tensions, and problems. A simple act of considering positive aspects of life can make a huge difference. You can have an entirely different perspective of your life only if you learn to count your blessings, notice minute joys, and acknowledge everything that you have. If you have an attitude of gratitude, you can treasure your life, family, profession, and relations.

Contributed by Rakesh Malhotra, Founder of Five Global Values (www.fiveglobalvalues.com) and Author of “Adventures of Tornado Kid, Whirling Back Home Towards Timeless Values” .Passionately determined to uncover the mystery of human behavior. His fascination with the influence of core values on human behavior stems from a career which has seen rise from an entry-level sales job to that of a seasoned CEO. Having worked, lived, or traveled to more than 40 countries, he has been able to study performance and human behavior across all cultures.

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